Questions to ask your girlfriend
Good questions to ask your girlfriend make her tell a story she hasn't told you yet, like "What did you think of me the first time you saw me, honestly?" or "Which version of yourself are you proudest of?" Here are 130 of them in seven groups: funny, flirty, deep, love questions, the future, would she rather and a juicy round for adults.
What's the most ridiculous thing you believed as a kid?
Leave Juicy off until you both want it. Flirty and Would she rather are the easiest ones to send by text. All 130 are listed below too.
Tap the card to draw a random question, or pick the groups that fit tonight. They work across the table, on a walk or by text when you are not together.
- Questions
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- Dates, texting, long distance
130 questions to ask your girlfriend
Open with Funny or Would she rather to get her laughing. Love questions and Deep are for when you have time to really listen, and The future is best once you both know where this is going.
Funny and random questions to ask your girlfriend
20- What's the most ridiculous thing you believed as a kid?
- Which of your friends would survive the longest on a desert island, and who goes first?
- If your life had a laugh track, which moment from this week would get the biggest laugh?
- What's the strangest compliment a stranger has ever given you?
- If you were a villain in a film, what would your evil plan be?
- Which word do you always spell wrong?
- What's the pettiest reason you've ever stopped liking someone?
- If animals could talk, which one would be the rudest?
- What's your most unpopular food opinion?
- Which celebrity do you think would be the most annoying flatmate?
- What's a fact you know that you bring up way too often?
- If you could swap lives with a cartoon character for a day, who would it be?
- What would your entrance song be if you were a pro wrestler?
- Which of my habits would you put on a list called things only he does?
- What's the worst gift you've ever had to pretend to like?
- If you could replace one sound in the world, which one and with what?
- What's the longest you've ever spent choosing something on a menu?
- Which fictional family would you most want to spend Christmas with?
- If you started a band tomorrow, what would it be called?
- What's a completely useless thing you'd be an expert on in a quiz?
Flirty questions to ask your girlfriend
20- What did you think of me the first time you saw me, honestly?
- When did you realise you liked me more than you planned to?
- What's the cutest thing I've done without noticing?
- Which photo of us is your favourite, and why that one?
- Did you have a crush on me before I asked you out?
- What's something I say that always makes you smile?
- Which of my jumpers or T-shirts have you secretly claimed?
- Where would you take me if I let you plan a surprise date?
- What was your favourite part of our first kiss?
- If you wrote a song about me, what would the chorus say?
- What's one thing I do that makes you feel pretty?
- Have you ever reread our early messages?
- What's the moment you think I fell for you?
- Do you prefer good morning texts or good night texts from me?
- If our relationship was a film, what would the poster look like?
- What's something you love about me that I'd never guess?
- Which of my friends did you like straight away?
- When I'm away, what do you miss first?
- What's the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?
- If you could get me to do one thing more often, what would it be?
Deep and serious questions to ask your girlfriend
20- Which version of yourself are you proudest of?
- What's something you had to unlearn after you grew up?
- Who in your life do you feel you have to be strong for?
- What's a belief about love you had at twenty that you've let go of?
- What's a compliment you find hard to believe about yourself?
- Which year of your life would you never want to repeat?
- What's something you wish more people asked you about?
- Is there a friendship you miss that you never talk about?
- What did your mum or dad teach you without meaning to?
- What do you need when you're overwhelmed, and what makes it worse?
- What's a dream you quietly let go of?
- When do you feel you have to hide part of yourself?
- What does home mean to you now, compared to when you were little?
- What's the bravest decision you've ever made?
- Which of your own rules do you never break?
- What do you think you'll understand at 50 that you don't yet?
- What makes you feel safe with someone?
- What's something people get wrong about you at first?
- Is there anything you're still angry about that you've never said?
- What would you do differently if nobody could ever find out you failed?
Love questions to ask your girlfriend
20- What does love feel like to you, day to day?
- When did you first say I love you in your head before you said it out loud?
- What's one thing I do that makes you feel taken care of?
- How can I tell when you need me, even if you say you're fine?
- What's the best day we've had together, and why that one?
- Is there something you want me to notice more?
- What did you think a relationship would be like before you had one?
- What does trust look like to you in practice?
- What's something small I could do every week that would mean a lot?
- When have you felt the most supported by me?
- How do you like to make up after a disagreement?
- What's one thing about us you'd never change?
- Which love song gets closest to how you feel about us?
- What's a moment you wanted me to say something and I didn't?
- How do you like to be told you look good?
- What's something you've learned about love from your friends' relationships?
- Is there a part of your life you'd like me to be more involved in?
- When do you feel most like a team with me?
- What made you trust me for the first time?
- If you wrote me a thank you note right now, what would it say?
Questions to ask your girlfriend about the future
20- What does your life look like in ten years if everything goes right?
- Which city could you see yourself living in that isn't this one?
- What's a big adventure you want to have before you settle down, if you ever do?
- How do you picture our first proper home together?
- Do you want a wedding one day, and what kind?
- How do you feel about kids, honestly, right now?
- What's a goal of yours I could help with?
- Which family tradition do you want to keep, and which can go?
- What would your dream job be if you could start over tomorrow?
- How do you want to split the boring stuff like bills and cleaning?
- What's a trip you want us to save up for?
- How much time alone do you want to keep, even when we live together?
- Which friends do you hope are still in our lives in twenty years?
- What would you like to be really good at by the time you're 60?
- What's one thing you never want us to stop doing?
- Dog, cat, or no pets at all?
- How should we celebrate our anniversaries?
- If we won a lot of money, what's the first thing we'd do?
- What worries you about the future that you don't usually say?
- What kind of old couple do you think we'll be?
Would she rather: questions to ask your girlfriend
15- Would you rather get breakfast in bed every Sunday or a surprise date once a month?
- Would you rather know what I'm thinking all the time or never have to wonder again?
- Would you rather live by the sea or in the mountains together?
- Would you rather have me write you a poem or plan you a whole day out?
- Would you rather spend a weekend with my family or have me spend one with yours?
- Would you rather we always have to sing what we say or dance wherever we walk?
- Would you rather read every message I've ever sent or never see my camera roll?
- Would you rather go back to our first date or fast forward to our tenth anniversary?
- Would you rather travel the world for a year or have your dream home now?
- Would you rather have a matching tattoo or matching outfits for a whole holiday?
- Would you rather I was a famous chef or a famous singer?
- Would you rather have a quiet night in or a loud night out with all our friends?
- Would you rather we never argue again or always make up perfectly?
- Would you rather I planned every date or you planned every date?
- Would you rather have a love story like a romcom or like a road movie?
Juicy and spicy questions to ask your girlfriend (18+)
15For adult couples who both want a juicy round. Either of you can skip any question, no explanation needed.
- When did you first think about kissing me?
- What's the most attractive thing I do without realising it?
- Which of my looks gets your attention the fastest?
- Have you ever sent a message to me and then blushed?
- What's a date you'd love to go on but would never suggest yourself?
- What's the most daring thing you've ever done for love?
- Is there a song that makes you think of us late at night?
- What's one thing you'd like me to say to you more often?
- Do you prefer being kissed slowly or by surprise?
- What's a little fantasy about the two of us you've never mentioned?
- Which of my compliments do you replay in your head?
- Where's the most unexpected place you've wanted to kiss me?
- What's something you think we should try together this year?
- When do you feel the most confident around me?
- What could I plan for this weekend that would make you blush?
How to ask your girlfriend questions without it feeling like an interview
Firing off ten questions in a row feels like a job interview. Turning them into a small ritual feels like a date. This is the simplest way to do it.
- Pick a moment, not a scheduleA slow dinner, a walk home, a long train ride. Avoid asking when one of you is tired or stressed.
- Let her choose the groupsShow her the chips above and let her switch off anything she doesn't feel like tonight.
- You both answerWhoever draws reads the question out, then you both answer it. Take turns going first.
- Ask one follow upAfter each answer, ask one follow up like "What happened next?" or "Why that one?" Listening is half the game.
- Stop while it's goodWhen a question turns into a real conversation, put the phone away. The deck will still be there next time.
| Situation | Start with | Save for later |
|---|---|---|
| You've just started dating | Funny, Flirty | Love questions |
| Long distance video call | Would she rather, The future | Deep |
| Texting during the day | Flirty, Funny | Juicy |
| A quiet night in | Love questions, Deep | Juicy |
| After a rough week | Funny, Would she rather | The future |
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What makes the best questions to ask your girlfriend
The best love questions are not about big declarations. They are about the small, specific things she would never bring up on her own.
- Ask about her world, not just about you. Questions about her friends, her family and her old dreams show you're curious about her whole life.
- Be specific. "What's your favourite memory of us?" is fine. "What's the best day we've had together, and why that one?" is better.
- Don't use questions as a test. If you are hoping for one right answer, it's not a question, it's a trap. Ask only what you want to hear honestly.
- Share back. Every serious question she answers deserves your own honest answer to the same one.
Questions people ask
What are good questions to ask your girlfriend?
Good questions ask her for a story or a feeling, like "Which version of yourself are you proudest of?" or "When did you realise you liked me more than you planned to?" This page has 130 in seven groups.
What are love questions to ask your girlfriend?
Try "What does love feel like to you, day to day?", "When have you felt the most supported by me?" or "What made you trust me for the first time?" The Love questions group has 20 of them.
What are flirty questions to ask your girlfriend?
Flirty questions look back at how you met or ask what she likes about you: "Did you have a crush on me before I asked you out?" or "Which photo of us is your favourite?" They work well by text.
What are deep questions to ask your girlfriend?
Deep questions ask about who she is, like "What's a dream you quietly let go of?" or "What makes you feel safe with someone?" Ask them when you both have time, and answer them yourself too.
What are funny questions to ask your girlfriend?
Ask something absurd with no wrong answer: "If you were a villain in a film, what would your evil plan be?" or "Which celebrity would be the most annoying flatmate?"
What are juicy questions to ask your girlfriend?
Juicy questions are flirty and a little bold, like "What's a date you'd love to go on but would never suggest yourself?" Keep them for a moment you both want, and let her skip any of them.
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