Questions for couples
Questions for couples work best when you both answer the same question, one after the other, like "What's a small moment from this month you want to remember?" or "Which of our running jokes would make no sense to anyone else?" Here are 130 in seven groups: date night, fun and silly, memories, a relationship check in, long distance, the future and a quiz on how well you know each other.
What's a small moment from this month you want to remember?
Both of you answer every card. For How well do you know me, one partner writes the answer down first and the other guesses. All 130 are listed below too.
Draw a card on your phone and take turns answering first. The quiz group turns it into a question game: one of you answers secretly, the other guesses.
- Questions
- 130
- Groups
- 7
- Time
- 20 minutes to a whole evening
130 questions for couples to answer together
Use Date night and Fun and silly for an evening out, Relationship check in once a month, and Long distance for calls when you're apart. The How well do you know me quiz works as a game for two or with other couples.
Date night questions for couples
20- What's a small moment from this month you want to remember?
- If we had a free day tomorrow with no plans, what would we do?
- Which restaurant meal of ours would you order again right now?
- What's something you're looking forward to this week?
- What's a film you think we should watch together, and why?
- Which of our dates would you happily repeat exactly the same way?
- What's a place nearby we keep saying we'll go to and never do?
- What's one thing you learned this week that surprised you?
- If tonight had a soundtrack, which three songs would be on it?
- What's a dish we should learn to cook together?
- What's the best thing that happened to you today?
- Which friend of yours do I still not know well enough?
- If we could teleport anywhere for dinner, where would we go?
- What's a hobby you'd try if I tried it with you?
- Which of our photos would you frame?
- What's something you've been wanting to tell me but haven't found the moment?
- If we were tourists in our own town tomorrow, what would we do?
- Which of us is the better dancer, and be honest?
- What should our next date be? Plan it now.
- What's one thing you love about tonight?
Fun and silly questions for couples
20- Which of our running jokes would make no sense to anyone else?
- If we were a famous duo, which duo would we be?
- Which one of us would survive longer in a horror film?
- Who's the messier one, and what's the evidence?
- If our relationship had a theme tune, how would it go? Hum it.
- Which of us would win on a game show, and which game show?
- What would our couple name be if we were celebrities?
- Who takes longer to get ready, and by how much?
- If we swapped lives for a day, what's the first thing you'd do as me?
- Which of us would get us lost on a hike?
- What's the most ridiculous argument we've ever had?
- If we opened a café together, what would it be called and what would it sell?
- Who's more likely to cry at an advert?
- Which animal is the most like us as a couple?
- If we were characters in a sitcom, who would be the funny one?
- Which of my phrases have you started saying without noticing?
- Who would last longer without their phone?
- If we entered a talent show as a couple, what would our act be?
- What's the weirdest thing we've ever done on a Tuesday night?
- Who's the worse driver, and who's the worse passenger?
Questions for couples about your memories
20- What do you remember most clearly about the day we met?
- What did you think of me after our first conversation?
- Which trip of ours do you think about the most?
- What's a meal together you still remember years later?
- When was the first time you felt completely relaxed around me?
- What's the funniest thing that's happened to us in public?
- Which day with me would you live again if you could?
- What's a moment you knew we'd be OK after a hard time?
- What was the first thing you ever bought for me, and why that?
- When did you first meet my friends, and how did it really go?
- What's a song that takes you straight back to an early date?
- Which photo of us tells the best story?
- What's something I did early on that you still tease me about?
- What's the most spontaneous thing we've done together?
- When did you feel most proud to be with me?
- What's a tradition of ours that started by accident?
- Which holiday or birthday together stands out, and why?
- What's the first fight you remember, and what was it about?
- Which version of us from the early days do you miss a little?
- What's a memory of us you've never told me you think about?
Relationship check in questions for couples
20- On a scale from 1 to 10, how connected have you felt to me this month?
- What's one thing I did this month that made you feel loved?
- Is there anything you've been carrying that you haven't told me?
- What do you need more of from me right now?
- What do you need less of from me right now?
- How are we doing at sharing the boring jobs?
- Did we spend enough time together, or too much?
- Was there a moment this month you felt alone in our relationship?
- What's something we handled well together lately?
- Is there a conversation we keep putting off?
- How are you feeling about money right now?
- Are we seeing our friends enough, together and apart?
- What's stressing you outside our relationship that I should know about?
- What's one thing we could try differently next month?
- How was our communication when we disagreed this month?
- Do you feel heard when you bring something up?
- Is there a promise I made that I haven't kept yet?
- What made you laugh the most with me this month?
- What's one thing you appreciate about me that you haven't said?
- What should we plan just for the two of us before next check in?
Long distance questions for couples
15- What's the first thing we'll do when we're in the same place again?
- What does your day look like when I'm not watching on video?
- Which time of day do you miss me the most?
- What's something in your room right now that reminds you of me?
- If I could send you one thing by post tomorrow, what should it be?
- Which of our calls has been the best so far, and why?
- What's one thing about long distance that's been easier than you expected?
- What's been harder than you expected?
- Which show should we watch at the same time this week?
- What's a habit we could share even though we're apart?
- What do you want me to know on the days you go quiet?
- Where would you take me if I visited you this weekend?
- What's our plan for closing the distance, and how do you feel about it?
- What's a small thing I could do from far away that would make your day?
- How do you want to say goodbye at the airport next time?
Questions for couples about the future
15- What's one thing we should do together before the end of this year?
- Where should we live if we could start from zero anywhere in the world?
- What does a perfect ordinary weekend look like for us in five years?
- Which goal of yours should we make a goal for both of us?
- How do we want to handle money once we share more of it?
- What kind of parents, aunt, uncle or godparents do we want to be?
- What's a big trip we should start saving for now?
- What's a habit we should start now that future us will thank us for?
- How do we want to look after each other when one of us is ill?
- Which couple tradition do we want to keep forever?
- What would our dream kitchen table conversation be at 70?
- How will we make sure we still date each other in ten years?
- What's one thing we never want our relationship to turn into?
- Where do you want to spend our big birthdays?
- What should future us never forget about right now?
How well do you know me: a couples quiz
20One partner writes the answer down secretly, the other guesses. A point for every match.
- What's my go to order at our favourite takeaway?
- What's my biggest pet peeve?
- Which of my friends have I known the longest?
- What was the first concert I ever went to?
- What's the first thing I do when I get home?
- Which film could I watch over and over?
- What's my most used emoji?
- What would I buy first if I won the lottery?
- What am I most afraid of?
- Which smell instantly puts me in a good mood?
- Which country do I want to visit most?
- What's my most annoying habit, in my own opinion?
- What's the last thing I do before I fall asleep?
- What's the first app I open in the morning?
- Which decade would I live in if I could?
- What's my favourite thing about you?
- Who was my first celebrity crush?
- What's the one chore I always try to avoid?
- What's my dream way to spend a birthday?
- Which of our dates did I like the most?
How to do a monthly relationship check in
A check in is a short, planned talk about how the two of you are doing, before small things turn into big ones. Twenty minutes once a month is enough for most couples.
- Put it in the calendarSame day every month, for example the first Sunday. Planned talks feel less like a crisis than "we need to talk".
- Start with something goodEach of you says one thing the other did this month that you appreciated. It sets the tone.
- Draw three check in cardsSwitch on only the Check in group and draw three questions. Both of you answer each one.
- Pick one thing to changeAgree on one small, concrete change for next month. One, not five.
- End with a date night questionSwitch to Date night or Fun and silly and finish on a light question, or plan your next date right there.
| Situation | Groups to use | How long |
|---|---|---|
| Date night out | Date night, Fun and silly | As long as dinner lasts |
| Monthly check in | Check in, then Date night | About 20 minutes |
| Long distance call | Long distance, Memories | One call |
| Anniversary | Memories, The future | An evening |
| Game night with other couples | How well do you know me | About 30 minutes |
Playing with other couples? Keep the answers anonymous
On a double date or a couples night, Dronk's Pandora's Box lets everyone write their answer on the phone, and the app reads them out without names. The honest answers come out, and the guessing starts.
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Question games for couples
Any group above becomes a game for couples with one extra rule. These three are the easiest to start with.
- The matching game. Both of you write your answer to a Fun and silly question on your phones, then reveal at the same time. A point for every match.
- Couples quiz night. With two or three couples, take turns on the How well do you know me group. The couple with the most matches wins. The newlywed game works the same way with a hosted twist.
- Would you rather for couples. Two options, both of you pick at once, then defend your choice. We collected the best ones in would you rather questions for couples.
- Twenty questions, couples edition. Draw twenty cards from any mix of groups and answer them in one sitting, no passes. Good for a long drive.
- Want more games for two? The couple games guide has card, phone and no equipment games for date night.
Questions people ask
What are good questions for couples?
Good questions for couples are ones you both answer, like "Which day with me would you live again if you could?" or "What's a habit we should start now that future us will thank us for?" This page has 130 in seven groups.
What are fun questions for couples?
Try "Which of us would survive longer in a horror film?", "What would our couple name be if we were celebrities?" or "Who's the worse driver, and who's the worse passenger?" The Fun and silly group has 20 of them.
What is a good question game for couples?
The easiest is the matching game: you both answer the same question secretly, then reveal at the same time and score a point for every match. The How well do you know me group has 20 quiz questions for it.
What questions should couples ask in a relationship check in?
Ask what went well, what each of you needs more or less of, and what to try differently next month. The Check in group has 20 questions, and the steps above show how to run it in 20 minutes.
What are good questions for long distance couples?
Ask about each other's days and about the next time you meet, like "Which time of day do you miss me the most?" or "What's the first thing we'll do when we're in the same place again?"
Can you play a questions game with more than one couple?
Yes. Take turns with each couple on the How well do you know me group and count matches. With a bigger group, an anonymous game like Pandora's Box keeps it fair.
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