Get to know you questions
The best get to know you questions are easy to answer but leave room for a story, like "What's the story behind your name?" or "What do you nerd out about?" Here are 120 get to know you questions in seven groups: first meeting, dating, work, new roommates, new friends, multiple choice and quick fire.
What's keeping you busy these days, outside of work?
On a date, try Dating and Multiple choice. Meeting a colleague? Leave only Work and Quick fire on. All 120 questions are also listed below.
Tap the card to draw a question, and switch on only the group that fits. They are written for one to one chats and small groups: a coffee, a first date, a new colleague or the person you're about to share a kitchen with.
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120 get to know you questions
First meeting is the safe start for anyone. Dating goes a step further, Work and Roommates are practical as well as friendly, and Multiple choice and Quick fire are perfect when you want a lot of answers in a few minutes.
Good get to know you questions for a first meeting
18- What's keeping you busy these days, outside of work?
- What's the story behind your name?
- Where did you grow up, and what was it like?
- What's something you're looking forward to this month?
- What's the best thing that has happened to you this year so far?
- What do you nerd out about?
- Which place have you visited that you'd go back to tomorrow?
- What does a normal weekend look like for you?
- What's your family like, and who are you most like?
- What did you study, or what did you want to study?
- What's a book, show or podcast you'd recommend to almost anyone?
- Which part of this city do you like most?
- Are you a planner or more of a see what happens person?
- What's something you've always wanted to try but haven't yet?
- What do people usually get wrong about you when they first meet you?
- What's a skill you learned from a parent or grandparent?
- Who's someone you look up to, and why?
- What are you really proud of that doesn't fit on a CV?
Get to know you questions for dating
18- What does a perfect first date look like to you?
- What made you say yes to this date?
- What's on your bucket list that you'd want a partner for?
- How do you like to be shown that someone cares?
- What's a dealbreaker that sounds small but isn't?
- What are you looking for right now, honestly?
- What's the most romantic thing you've seen someone do?
- Are you close with your family?
- What would you do with a completely free Thursday?
- What's a green flag you always look for?
- What are you like when you're tired or hungry? Be honest.
- What's something you're working on in yourself right now?
- Do you have pets, or do you want them?
- What's the best trip you've ever taken, and who were you with?
- What's your idea of a lazy day done right?
- How would your friends describe you in three words?
- What do you want more of in your life this year?
- What's a question you wish people asked you more often?
Get to know you questions for work
16- What did you do before this job?
- What part of your job would surprise people?
- How do you like feedback: straight, gentle or written down?
- What's your most productive hour of the day?
- Do you work best with music, silence or background noise?
- What's something you could teach the team in ten minutes?
- What does a good week at work look like for you?
- Who was the best manager you've had, and what did they do right?
- What do you do with a lunch break when you get a real one?
- Which work tool or trick can't you live without?
- How did you end up in this field?
- What do you want to get better at this year?
- How do you prefer to be reached: chat, email or a quick call?
- Which project are you most proud of so far?
- Where would we find you on a Saturday afternoon?
- What's the first thing you'd do with a surprise free afternoon at work?
Get to know you questions for new roommates
16- Are you a clean as you go person or a big Sunday clean person?
- What time do you usually go to bed on a weeknight?
- How do you feel about guests staying over?
- Morning shower or evening shower, and roughly how long?
- Do you cook, and do you like to share?
- Shared groceries: split everything or label everything?
- When something bugs you, do you say it right away or wait for a calm moment?
- How loud is your music, honestly?
- What's your idea of a perfect night in?
- Are you home a lot or mostly out?
- What's one house rule that really matters to you?
- What did a past roommate do that drove you mad?
- Window open or heating on?
- Do you work or study from home?
- How do you feel about plants or a pet in the flat?
- What would make this place feel like home to you?
Fun get to know you questions for a new friend
16- What's a hobby you could talk about for an hour?
- Which live show would you travel to see?
- How did you meet your closest friend?
- What does a good friend do that most people don't?
- What's your favorite way to spend a free evening?
- Which city or country feels most like you?
- What's a show you think everyone underrates?
- Which group chat are you most active in?
- What's a tradition you have with your friends?
- What's the last thing you got really excited about?
- What are you good at that you never get to show off?
- What did you get really into for a few weeks and then drop?
- What's your idea of a perfect day in this city?
- Which game, sport or quiz round are you unbeatable at?
- What makes you laugh the hardest?
- What are you doing this weekend, and can I come?
Multiple choice get to know you questions
18- Your perfect Saturday: a hike, a long brunch, the sofa with a series, or a museum?
- Your phone battery right now: above 80, about half, under 20, or always dying?
- On a trip you are: the planner, the follower, the one who wanders off, or the one by the pool?
- Long drive soundtrack: old classics, whatever's trending, podcasts, or total silence?
- Friends call you when they need: advice, a laugh, a lift, or someone to go out with?
- Go to takeaway: pizza, sushi, burgers, or curry?
- Your texting style: full sentences, one word replies, voice notes, or memes only?
- Your morning starts with: three snoozes, a run, coffee in silence, or your phone in bed?
- Dream trip: a beach, a big city, the mountains, or a road trip with no plan?
- Your cooking: chef level, one great dish, pasta and hope, or delivery?
- Your superpower at work: organizing, fixing things, cheering people up, or finishing at the last minute?
- Your room right now: spotless, organized chaos, one chair full of clothes, or don't ask?
- Spare money goes on: travel, food, clothes, or gadgets?
- Your movie pick: a comedy, a horror film, a documentary, or the same favorite again?
- When you're stressed you: clean, exercise, sleep, or talk it out?
- Your ideal pet: a dog, a cat, something unusual, or a plant is enough?
- Social battery after a party: full, half, empty, or recharging for a week?
- Bedtime on a free night: before 11, around midnight, 2 am, or whenever the episode ends?
Quick fire get to know you questions
18- Favorite word?
- Last song you played?
- Best birthday you've had?
- Your week in one word?
- Best decade for music?
- Signature dish?
- Famous person you'd want at your dinner table?
- Number of countries you've been to?
- Favorite holiday of the year?
- Dream car?
- First concert?
- Perfect road trip song?
- Proudest small win this year?
- Favorite TV show as a kid?
- Best city you've ever been to?
- Current obsession?
- Something you can do with your eyes closed?
- Most rewatched movie?
How to ask get to know you questions without it feeling like an interview
The difference between a good chat and a job interview is rhythm. Ask, listen, share something back, then ask again.
- Start with one easy questionPick from First meeting or Quick fire. Easy questions build momentum, and momentum is what makes people open up.
- Swap answersAfter they answer, give your own. A get to know you question that only goes one way feels like a form.
- Follow the interesting bitIf they mention a sibling who lives in Japan, forget the next card and ask about the sibling.
- Go one level deeperOnce you're both laughing, move to Dating or New friends. Save anything personal for when they bring it up first.
- End on a light oneFinish with a multiple choice or quick fire question so the last thing you share is easy.
| Best groups | Skip for now | |
|---|---|---|
| First date or dating app chat | Dating, Multiple choice | Roommates |
| New colleague or team | Work, Quick fire | Dating |
| New roommate or flatmate | Roommates, First meeting | Dating |
| Coffee with a new friend | New friends, Multiple choice | Work |
| Couples who want to learn something new | Multiple choice, Quick fire | First meeting |
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Get to know you questions in a group
These questions are built for one to one and small groups. With a bigger crowd, use a format where everyone answers fast. Our icebreaker questions cover games for whole rooms, but these three ideas work with the lists on this page:
- Multiple choice show of hands. Read a multiple choice question and everyone holds up one to four fingers. You see the room's personality in ten seconds.
- Quick fire pairs. Pair people up for two minutes of Quick fire, then swap partners.
- Guess my answer. One person answers a question secretly, and the other person guesses before it's revealed. Great for couples who think they know everything already.
Questions people ask
What are good get to know you questions?
Good get to know you questions are easy to answer and invite a story, like "What's the story behind your name?" or "What's something you've always wanted to try but haven't yet?" This page has 120 in seven groups.
What are fun get to know you questions?
The Multiple choice group is the most fun, because people argue about the options: "Your cooking: chef level, one great dish, pasta and hope, or delivery?" Quick fire is fun too, as long as you keep the pace high.
What are good get to know you questions for dating?
Try "What's a green flag you always look for?", "What's a dealbreaker that sounds small but isn't?" or "What's a question you wish people asked you more often?" The Dating group has 18. For more after the first few dates, see our deep questions to ask.
What are get to know you questions for work?
Keep it about working styles and light personal details: "How do you like feedback?", "What's your most productive hour of the day?" or "Where would we find you on a Saturday afternoon?" The Work group has 16.
What are multiple choice get to know you questions?
Questions with four set answers, like "Your phone battery right now: above 80, about half, under 20, or always dying?" They're quick, nobody has to think of an answer from scratch, and you can play them as a show of hands.
How do you get to know someone you like?
Ask about what they care about, share your own answers and follow the details they light up about. Start with First meeting, then move to Dating once the conversation flows.
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